Hardwired Behavior

Animal trainers know that some behaviors are so hardwired, they cannot be changed. Badgers dig. Geese migrate. It would be a waste of time to try to train a cat not to lick his paws. Try teaching a dog not to sniff the ground looking for other animals' scents.

What behaviors in my spouse are so hardwired I cannot change them? Robby is in love with technology. His jobs have always centered around technology - for years he worked in the video & television ministry of a church and now he works with computers. I have no patience with learning new technology and find pen & pencil more effective much of the time. I frequently debate whether a new SOMETHING is worth the money. Robby frequently debates which new SOMETHING he should buy and which new SOMETHING our friends have.

It would be a waste of time for me to try to break Robby of this habit. I don't think he could remove my reading or scrapbook habits. I just have to learn to accept it (and budget for it).

This post was inspired by the book "What Shamu Taught me about Life, Love and Marriage" by Amy Sutherland.