Wednesday, October 12, 2011


Miller writes that there are two times you confess your sin: before or after you get caught.  The first is true confession, the second is merely owning up.

Do we ever confess before being caught?  Rarely in our society.  Maybe because I am an attorney and have worked in the legal field for almost two decades.  My clients only "confess" when the evidence against them is overwhelming. 

But outside of a legal setting, there are different kinds of confession.  Before God.  Within our family. 

A few days ago we went out to dinner for my birthday.  My daughter Catherine made me a pretend birthday cake with two pieces of bread, some butter and some jelly. She was basically playing with her food.  She would not eat it, as she has a history of refusing to eat it.  She wanted me to eat it.  She kept handing it to me and saying "Here's your birthday cake, Mommy."   

The problem is I really don't like jelly and I had my own food on my plate which I wanted to eat.  I didn't want to eat her so-called birthday cake.  So, I told her no, I would not eat it.  Thankfully, she didn't seem to react to my refusal to eat it.

But later that night, after she went to bed, I began to feel guilty. Her heart was in the right place; Catherine was making a gift for me out of love for me, to celebrate by birthday.  Yet, I shot down her efforts.  I feel so bad now.  If I continue to act so ungrateful, will I destroy her loving, giving spirit?  Why did I model such ungrateful behavior? 

In retrospect, I was clearly wrong.  I should have acted grateful and eaten at least some of the cake. 

So how do I correct the situation?  Obviously I can change my behavior for future similar incidents.  But, should I confess to her what I did wrong at this point?  Catherine fortunately has a short memory for situations like this.  Would bringing the issue back up now upset her? 

This post is inspired by the book Into the Depths of God by Calvin Miller.

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